When you are a first time mom, life can get a little scary. I remember when I was pregnant with my first child. I didn’t know what to expect; so, I found myself downloading parenting apps and buying the book, What to Expect When You Are Expecting. I didn’t know where to start. There was so much information, and I didn’t know what was real and what wasn’t. I pretty much figured things out as they happened, because everyone isn’t the same and every situation isn’t the same.
After speaking to several mothers, below is a list of things they feel are important to know:
1. Motherhood isn’t easy.
2. Postpartum is REAL; therapy is your friend.
3. Morning sickness doesn’t mean you’re sick only in the morning. Note: morning sickness can last for months.
4. Your emotions are all over the place at times. One minute you can be crying, the next you can be laughing, and a minute later you can be extremely angry. Understand it’s okay.
5. Wash your baby’s clothes before he wears them. There are chemicals in some clothing.
6. Do not buy a ton on baby clothes because your baby grows fast. A lot of mothers admit that their children didn’t wear all their clothes before they outgrew them.
7. Nursing saves money and is healthier for the baby.
8. After delivering and the milk comes down, your breast may become engorged. This is extremely uncomfortable and painful.
9. Don’t let everyone touch your baby. People have a lot of germs and your baby could get sick. Unfortunately, your baby can’t communicate and tell you that he or she is sick.
10. Make sure you take time for yourself. Motherhood is stressful and you need time away to relax and rejuvenate so you can be the best mother you can be.
11. Make time for your partner. Having a baby is a lot of work. Make sure you don’t neglect your partner.
12. In the first few months until the baby is on a schedule and sleeps longer, try to sleep when the baby sleeps to avoid exhaustion.
13. Think of ways to make life easier on yourself. Buy in bulk, try meal preps, i.e. Hello Fresh.
14. Your life will never be the same. A baby changes a lot of things including your body.
15. It’s okay to ask for help. Don’t pretend like you have it all together
16. Don’t compare or judge yourself based on what you think you see in other mothers.
17. Milestones are relative gauges. Although they can be helpful to use in terms of monitoring your bays progress, don’t solely use them as judgement of your parenting, your baby’s progress, etc.
18. Parenting advice isn’t a “one size fits all”.
19. It’s okay to have a meltdown, be stressed, or depressed.
20. Times goes fast when you have a baby.
21. Take pictures with you in them.
22. Sometimes you may wish you didn’t have children and sometimes you may wish you had more.
23. Find time to laugh. Laughter is the best medicine!